Yeah, I'm very glad the Christian people I know are pretty much the opposite of all of this - and are definitely not 'Bolsominions'. The service I went to wasn't in a big church by the way, there may have been not more than 100 people. I do hope to go back to Brazil in the future of course, and when I do, I hope I can go there again - I'd be interested in talking with the guy who was leading the service, just to get a better impression of him.
About point 2), I'm hopeful about the people in the service I went to, since the gist of the guy's story was basically "you get back what you put into something", which - unlike "the devil causes it!" - is something I can pretty much agree with. It doesn't always work of course, lazy and shitty people do get good things sometimes and amazing, wonderful and hard-working people sadly sometimes get shitty stuff, but in general I think it's a good idea to live by.
Anyhow, your entire story reminded me of a few words I heard a while back: "You choose your friends, but you don't choose your family." That's about right, I hope you've also got some people around you who don't give two shits about whether you fall for men, women or both, as long as you're happy.
As for the Netherlands: we don't have that many people so strongly like this here (they exist, of course, but not in such huge numbers), when it comes to religion the bigger problem in terms of accepting things like people who don't believe or people who happen to be guy comes from the Muslim community. Quite a large number* seem to think it's perfectly fine to yell at you or knock you out if you're gay or not a Muslim or - if you're a girl - just an overall whore. You know, because they can see your arm skin or something.
*obviously not all, and it's sensitive to even mention it, which is why I'm stressing the 'obviously not all' part